• If you are in distress and need to speak with someone urgently, an on-call crisis counselor can be reached 24/7 at the following numbers:
    Holy Cross 24-hour Crisis Center number (855-418-7282)
    National Suicide Help Line (800-273-8225)

Inappropriate Phrases

  • "You are lucky to be alive ..." 
  • "You could have been killed, you are lucky you were only ..." (What is lucky about being raped, kidnapped, assaulted, etc.?)
  • "Why were you ..."
  • "What were you doing ..."
  • "I know how you feel."
  • "I understand."
  • "You shouldn't have ..."
  • "It's not a big deal."
  • "I don't understand why you're so upset."
  • "Calm down!"
  • "If I were you ..."

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